https://www.desireeruiz.ca/blog daily 1.0 2023-11-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/49574934-153c-4e07-8bb2-26333b923abb/Desiree+Ruiz-2021-10-09-Maryam+Southam+Photography-19.jpg https://www.desireeruiz.ca/blog/blog-post-title-four-4gfy7 monthly 0.5 2023-11-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/5ef665b3-7bc1-4865-98aa-8e89497f1664/375966802_10160836242095446_1532698347822185072_n.jpg Blog - Message to my younger self - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.desireeruiz.ca/blog/blog-post-title-three-xpwws monthly 0.5 2023-11-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/20a17ebc-8542-406d-a2ce-5ee98415cba2/3.png Blog - Turn your Pain into Purpose - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/365c416b-f21d-4a48-8609-f2a968d26845/9.png Blog - Turn your Pain into Purpose - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/b9592093-3dd9-42bb-89cf-c1d41b7b46b1/5.png Blog - Turn your Pain into Purpose - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/e844e229-74ce-4981-901a-9e8a3429b027/7.png Blog - Turn your Pain into Purpose - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/b34c4453-1dd9-437b-aa97-46f2793756de/8.png Blog - Turn your Pain into Purpose - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.desireeruiz.ca/blog/blog-post-title-two-schxe monthly 0.5 2023-11-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/fb97b365-396f-4d7a-9727-6d0fe075b643/Screenshot+2023-11-27+at+9.59.41+PM.png Blog - My decolonization journey - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.desireeruiz.ca/blog/paintopower monthly 0.5 2023-11-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/b5c8f2ba-eef3-4c5e-b3a8-5303d80243e1/IMG_1163.jpg Blog - Turn your Pain into Power post divorce - Make it stand out A photoshoot can help you embody and celebrate the new version of yourself that is rising. Advice: Find a photographer that will push you outside of your comfort zone. Bring a friend to the shoot. Try to capture the version of yourself that you are becoming. Make it bold. Make it special. You deserve it!! This photoshoot was done with Pascale Therrien from Laluz Portraits. I was completely outside of my comfort zone, like the rest of my life, but did it anyway and it was an unforgettable experience! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/d547c846-f738-4154-9df0-cedf2d6ae449/3.png Blog - Turn your Pain into Power post divorce - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/13292a88-cd55-4b54-9bcc-5aa24657ef6c/2.png Blog - Turn your Pain into Power post divorce - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/90e14cb1-5734-4a89-9830-77b04065f487/IMG_1165.jpg Blog - Turn your Pain into Power post divorce - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/b67d2256-4380-4098-875f-42d8cee1c8d2/IMG_1161.jpg Blog - Turn your Pain into Power post divorce - Make it stand out My divorce made me realize that I was really good at doing things for others and less skilled at prioritizing myself and my joy. So I wrote myself a bucket list filled with things that I always wanted to try and slowly started to check things off…and it was so much fun! Advice: Don’t overthink anything and lead with playfulness and joy. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ec2f0bdbdb4d21092b6606a/5eaab41a-e75b-41c8-afa5-d0e2680dd0cc/IMG_1162.jpg Blog - Turn your Pain into Power post divorce - Make it stand out Finding my voice and sharing my story was by far the hardest yet most powerful part of my journey. Believe it or not, it was really challenging for me at first to use my voice. WHY? I was raised to keep my feelings to myself and led to believe that expressing emotions was a sign of weakness. So I became an expert at repressing it all and staying polite and small in hopes of being loved. Then I got a divorce and said “F*ck it!” and co-created Les Lilas Society - a story sharing platform for women/x from all walks of life to practice using their voice and share their story. An it was one of the key components in turning my pain into power. Every time I shared, I shed parts of myself that were no longer serving me and shed years of conditioning and expectations that were projected onto me. And every time I heard another human share a piece of their personal story, it helped articulate and name feelings that were inside of me, helping me understand myself a bit better with each story. Summary: Learning how to use my voice helped me find meaning in my story. And being vulnerable by sharing my story in loving spaces shifted decades of emotions that were bottled up inside, which helped me create more room for love, abundance and freedom. Advice: practice in front of a mirror, talk to a friend, go live online. Get those emotions and feelings out of your body. 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People that are patient and tender! People that energize you and make you feel excited by life! People that honour the highs and lows of your journey, and celebrate the person you are becoming! Being in community helped me find my voice and come out of my shell. Being in community helped me find my Purpose and my sense of belonging, and helped me reconnect with my Filipina roots and Ancestors. Finding community has been a constant reminder that I am never alone! How to find a community for you? Get curious about things that you love. Go to events. Try things that excite you. Focus on how places, things and people make you feel. Chances are there’s a loving community or new friend waiting on the other side. If you can’t find it, create it! Les Lilas Society and Centre Kapwa are two communities that I co-founded and birthed after my divorce. Check them out! 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